The Story of Always and Never- Re-Affirmations!

When people tell me their stories or something related to their situation- they start with an always and never scenario.

For example -

1. I always feel angry about __xyz___ doing ___abc___.

2. I never had a healthy relationship with any of my parents.

3. I always feel lonely.

4. I am always overthinking things.

5. I always gain weight. I could never diet/exercise.

6. I am the one who always suffers in a relationship. I will never find true love.

7. I am always working or I am always busy I don't have time for ______.

The list goes on..

The thing is when you use the words- always and never. You are not discussing what was in the past but rather addressing future instances.

The mind cannot discern between certain things. When you use the words like always and never in your sentences or to describe your situation or story what happens is that you reaffirm your brain to act accordingly in the future as well.

And then the "always" and "never" parts you believe in manifest in the future making the belief even stronger and the vicious cycle continues.

While describing something try and make it about the past and not the future.

For example-

In the past, I had such scenarios where I have gotten into relationships that didn't work out for me, or in the past I was lonely.
Starting now, I am looking for ways and actions which align with my desire i.e. a healthy lifestyle or a relationship or having a fit body.

Words are powerful, they can heal you and make you the person you want to be. And it's high time you learn and understand to use the words which align with your desires.

Love and light..✨🍀💜